“Anger” (Heb. word – “aph” – meaning snorting).
Prov. 15:1 What stirs up anger?
[A harsh word is saying something that is severe or crude or in a rough manner.].
Why do you think people in general speak harshly?
Though speaking a harsh/severe word can and usually does stir up anger, does that mean it’s necessarily always wrong (see Matt. 23:13-17, 24-28, 33; Acts 6:8, 10 with Acts 7:51-55; 13:8-10), and why?
Do you ever speak harshly (rough, severely)?
If so, for what reason (e.g., a biblical one or a self-centered one)?
If it’s for a biblical reason and people get angry, don’t worry about it; it’s their problem. But if it’s for a self-centered reason, what do you plan to do about it in the future so that you don’t stir up anger?
Prov. 15:18 What does a hot-tempered person stir up?
[“strife” – bitter conflict/quarreling].
On the other hand, what do those who are slow to anger do?
[“pacify contention” – calm/soothe arguing].
Do people view you as hot-tempered or slow to anger, and why?
How do you view yourself, and why?
If you’re slow to anger, how did you become/get this way?
And what advice would you give a hot-tempered person to help him/her become slow to anger?
Prov. 16:32 What does it say about those who are slow to anger, those who rule their spirit?
[“the mighty” – the macho, muscular, courageous warrior].
Why do you think that this is so?
Do you hold your anger in by controlling it (ruling your spirit), or do you express it externally, and why?
If you express it externally, what form does it take, or how do you express it in word and/or action?
How can you change so as to be patient (Eph. 5:18; Gal. 5:22-23; Col. 3:12-13)?
Prov. 19:11 What does a person’s discretion (ability to make responsible choices, good judgment) make him?
Do you know when it’s wrong/sinful to be angry?
If so, how do you determine when it’s wrong?
Would knowing when God the Father and/or the Son get angry help because neither one can sin (Matt. 5:48; 1 Sam. 2:2; Rev. 15:4; Titus 1:2; 1 Jn. 3:5; 1 Pet. 2:22)?
If so, when do they get angry, or at what do they get angry [e.g., Ex. 22:21-24; 32:8-10 (Ex. 3:10 with Ex. 4:10-14); Num. 12:1, 5, 9; Isa. 5:24-25; Mk. 3:1-6; Matt. 21:12-13 with Jn. 2:13-16]?
“Anger” is primarily the Greek word “orge”/“orgizomai” and is the emotion of instant displeasure or indignation, arising from the feeling of injury done or intended mistreatment, opposition, or from the discovery of offense against law. Anger is not sinful per se (as anger toward sin, holiness offended, or God slandered). Anger is sinful when it is the reaction toward one’s self being offended (hurt pride).
Mk. 3:2-6 Why was Jesus looking with anger at the Pharisees (Jewish religious leaders)?
Have you ever been angry at man-made, religious rules that superseded the well-being of an individual (physically or spiritually)?
If so, what, when, and why?
Matt. 3:7-9 What did John the Baptist say that implies that he was angry with the Pharisees and Sadducees?
Have you ever been angry with religious leaders who harmed people by teaching them wrongly or taking advantage of them?
If so, over what issue(s)?
Jn. 2:15-17; Matt. 21:12-13
How do you think Jesus felt about the money changers and animal-sacrifice sellers because of their defiling of God’s house with corrupt business practices?
How did you come to your conclusion?
How do you think God feels about people who go to church/Bible study groups primarily to: find business contacts, play bingo, buy/sell items at church bazaars, find sexual partners, be entertained, etc., and why?
Eph. 4:31; Col. 3:8
Besides bitterness, wrath, clamor (noisy, insistent shouting), slander, and malice (wishing pain or distress to another), what should be put away (not allowed; swept clean) from us?
Are these things swept clean from your life?
If so, how did you do so?
Eph. 4:26 What commands are given?
There is an anger which is righteous. Have you ever been angry over injustice, sin, blasphemous statements, etc.?
If so, when and what?
Have you ever allowed what started out to be righteous anger to turn into personal revenge and, thereby, sin?
What should be the safeguard time limit that our righteous anger should end by (Eph. 4:26)?
What else should we be cautious of (Eph. 4:27), and why?
Have you ever been so angry with someone that it lasted for days, weeks, months, or even years, and it led you to bitterness, evil thoughts, and carnality?
Did you finally deal with it?
If so, how?
Rom. 12:18-19 When should we take our own revenge?
Instead, what should we do, or for what should we leave room?
When you’ve been hurt by someone (either physically or emotionally), have you ever taken your own revenge on that person, and why?
Titus 1:7 Not being quick tempered or prone to anger must be the quality of whom?
Would you qualify as an overseer/elder with this quality?
If not, what steps, specifically, would you need to take to qualify (Eph. 5:18; Gal. 5:22-23; Col. 3:12)?
James. 1:19-20 What are we told, regarding our being angry, and why?
How quickly do you get angry?
When you do, is it righteous anger or selfish (sin-nature based) anger, and how do you know?
“Wrath” is the Greek word “thumos” and means a more turbulent commotion; deep indignation expressing itself in a desire to punish or get revenge; hot anger.
Gal. 5:19-20 Outbursts of anger or wrath come from what source?
How can you deal with this source, so that you are not producing outbursts of anger (see Eph. 5:18; 1 Jn. 5:14-15; Gal. 5:22-23; Col. 3:12-13)?
Col. 3:8; Eph. 4:31 Besides anger, malice, slander, and abusive speech, what are we told to put aside/put away or not do anymore?
Have you put wrath away from your life? If not, why?
And when will you?
“Wrath” is to be distinguished from “anger” in this respect:
- Wrath indicates a more agitated condition of the feelings; an outburst from inward indignation, while anger suggests a more settled or abiding condition of mind.
- Anger is less sudden in its rise than wrath, but more lasting in its nature.
- Wrath expresses more the inward feeling, anger the more active emotion.
“Bitterness” is the Greek word “pikria” meaning severe hate; fierce disposition; harsh; sharp and disagreeable taste.
Eph. 4:31 What does it say about bitterness?
Do you tolerate any bitterness to reside in your life?
If so, when, and why?
Heb. 12:15 What can a root of bitterness cause?
What can a bitter person do to others whom he/she is around?
How could you make sure that this bitter person doesn’t defile/infect others (2 Tim. 4:2; 1 Cor. 5:6-7, 11, 13; Titus 3:10)?
“Hate” is a malicious and unjustifiable feeling toward another; to not love; to abhor or to loathe; a right feeling of turning away from what is evil; or of relative preference for one thing over another – Dr. L. Richards, Expository Dictionary of Bible Words.
“Sane” is the Hebrew word for “hate”.
Prov. 8:13 What is the fear of the Lord?
Do you hate (turn away from and abhor) these things, and why?
Prov. 13:5 What does a righteous person hate?
Do you hate the falsehood of wrong Bible teaching, and why?
If not, are you really a righteous person, and why?
Psa. 34:21 What will happen to those who hate the righteous?
Why do you think some people hate righteous people?
Have you ever hated a righteous person?
If so, why?
What can or should you do so that it doesn’t happen (Eph. 5:18; Gal. 5:22; Col. 3:12)?
“Misco” is the Greek word for “hate”.
Matt. 10:16, 22 Why would Jesus’ disciples be hated (abhorred/maliciously and unjustifiably thought of) by all kinds of people?
Do people hate you because of your identifying with or imitating Christ?
If so, why do you think this is (see Jn. 15:18-19; 17:14 for a possible reason)?
What will be true of those who are hated because of their identification with Christ (Lk. 6:22)?
Have you ever been blessed (benefited) by God for this reason?
If so, how?
Though people did not hate (have malicious feelings for) Jesus’ physical half-brothers, why did they hate (have malicious feelings for) Jesus?
Do people hate you for this same reason?
If so, share an example.
What will happen to the person who loves his/her soul/life (the life of the body as to indulge its appetites and make provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts)?
And what will happen to the person who hates (prefers less; despises as vain and insufficient; parts with when it comes in competition with love and service for Christ) his/her soul/life in this world (the self-centered enjoyments of our present state; self-centered: riches, honors, pleasures, etc.)?
Do you love the values and pleasures of this worldly, self-centered life more than you love Christ and eternal benefits, and why?
1 John 2:9-11 What is said of the person who hates (has malicious and unjustifiable feelings toward) his/her Christian brother?
Has this ever been true of you?
If so, what happened?
1 John 3:15 What is said of everyone who hates his Christian brother?
[“eternal life” – a metonymy for Christ Himself, 1 Jn. 5:20; 1:1-2].
[“abiding in” – controlling; in fellowship with].
Have you ever murdered another Christian in your mind and emotions?
If so, what did you do about it, if anything?
What should you have done about it (1 Jn. 1:9; Eph. 5:18)?
1 John 4:20 Who is a liar, and why?
Have you ever lied to yourself or to someone else in this area?
Now that you know this, will you be honest with yourself from now on?