Associate (Gk. sunanamignumi), means “to mix up together; to keep company with, be intimate with one,” Thayer’s Greek Definitions. It means “to be mingling in a close and habitual intimacy”, Wuest’s Word Studies.
2 Pet. 2:6-9 (Gen. 18:20; 19:1, 12-16, 24)
What was God’s attitude toward Lot living in a city where everyone was wicked, except for Lot, and why?
And what did God do to Lot and then to the city?
Have you ever been surrounded by (dwelt amongst) overt, gross sinners where you’ve lived or are living (e.g. neighbors, roommates, family, relatives)?
If so, did you or are you going to move, and why?
Ex 23:23-33; 34:12-15
Why did God want the different groups of people to live nowhere near His people (the Israelites – Ex. 23:33)?
[“snare” – trap; deep trouble].
How did God describe these inhabitants in relation to the Israelites (Num. 33:55)?
[“pricks” – sharp pointed objects; needles].
Has your dwelling amongst people who worship (give supreme or excessive allegiance/devotion to and honor for) other gods (e.g., position, cars, music, computers, career, sex, sports, possessions, wealth, power, college education, etc.) ever influenced you in any way to go after any of these gods?
If so, in what way, and why?
And if so, what are you going to do about it, and why?
1 Sam. 23:15-17
What value was there in David’s association or friendship with Jonathan, and why?
Do your friendships or the people you associate with direct your thoughts toward God or toward sin and self?
Do they encourage or pull you down morally?
How can you insure that your friendships encourage you spiritually?
2 Chron. 20:35-37 What did God say about Jehoshaphat’s association with Ahaziah?
As a result, what did God do to his ships?
What do you think God feels toward your close associations with gross sinners, and what will you do about it?
Psa. 1:1-2 Who is blessed (happy)?
What progression or degree of involvement do the verbs: “walk, stand, and sit” take?
Has your association with the wicked/sinners/scoffers led you into greater involvement with sin?
If so, how, or why?
Psa. 26:4-5 What doesn’t David do?
What does “sitting with” represent?
Do you sit (have close association) with these kinds of people, and why?
Psa. 119:63 To whom was the Psalmist a companion?
To whom are you a companion, and why?
Psa. 119:115 Who did the Psalmist want to depart from him, and why?
Is there anyone who you want to depart from you, and why?
Psa. 139:19-22 What feelings did David have, and why?
What feelings do you have toward the wicked, men of bloodshed, those who hate God, and take His name in vain, and why?
Is hate (intense dislike; detesting) always wrong/sinful (Psa. 5:4-6)?
[Heb. “sane” and Gk. “miseo” is to detest and reject, and want no contact or relation with. It’s an attitude more than an emotion in moral issues. Used in this sense, it’s a value judgment that guides us to have no contact with the evil. This is in contrast to hate as an emotional reaction to people that spills over into antagonistic acts that are wrong for us.].
Does this contradict Matt. 5:44, and why?
Psa. 141:4 With whom didn’t David want to do what?
Are these your desires too, and why?
Prov. 5:3-11 Who should we keep our way far from (vs. 8) and not go near this person’s house?
And why (Prov. 5:9-11)?
[“vigor” – sexual, physical energy due to intercourse]
[“years” – long life]
[“flesh…consumed” – by venereal diseases].
Have the lips and speech (Prov. 5:3) of an adulterous woman (or, if you are a girl, has that of an adulterer) drawn you, so that you want to associate with such a person, and why?
Prov. 14:7; 17:12
What does this passage instruct us to do regarding fools (one who is rash, crazy, senseless, or unreasonable), and why?
[“words of knowledge” – e.g., right from wrong, wise from unwise, good from best, valuable from not valuable].
[Examples of fools: someone who drives 70mph down a 25mph residential street; points a toy gun that looks real at a police officer, sticks out his tongue at a gang of teenagers; tries to shoot an apple off his friend’s head with a bow and arrow; stands in the middle of a busy street to see if truck will go around him; grabs a rattle snake by the tail; thinks that since God is loving, He won’t send anyone to hell; propagates: evolution, humanism, nihilism, atheism, agnosticism, existentialism, or Epicureanism].
Would it be hard for you to abide by this instruction, and why?
Prov. 13:20 What two principles are taught here?
Are you involved in either of these principles?
If so, which, and why?
Who are we told not to associate (bring into relationship with yourself as a companion, partner, friend, etc. or keep company) with, and why?
[“revealing secrets” – divulging information that should be kept confidential].
Have you ever obeyed this instruction (carried it out)?
What action should we take toward the perverse (wicked, stubbornly contrary; persisting in error; obstinately disobedient), and why?
[“thorns and snares” – pain and trouble].
Have you ever guarded yourself in this way?
What are we told to do to the scorner (a person who mocks with contempt, scorns, or makes fun of a person or thing in a rude, sarcastic manner)?
What will happen when we do this?
[“contention” – prideful arguing/debating/quarreling].
Have you ever done this to anyone, and why?
With whom aren’t we to associate (keep company) with or go (hang around), and why?
Are you obeying this, and why?
Prov. 23:6-8 Whose bread (food) should we not eat or desire his delicacies, and why?
If you know that a person is selfish, do you accept his/her offers of food to you, and why?
Prov. 23:20-21 With whom should we not be, and why?
[“poverty” – waste their money, time, mind, energy, and body].
Do you keep company or hang around these kinds of people, and why?
Prov. 24:1-2 With whom shouldn’t we either be envious of or desire to be, and why?
Do you ever desire to be with evil (i.e., morally bad or wicked) people? Why?
What should our relation and/or attitude be toward those who are given to change (i.e., seek change for change’s sake, either because they are restless, rebellious, factious, fond of novelty, or mischievous), and why?
Give a couple of examples of what this kind of person might be like today.
Are you hanging around anybody like this?
If you are, what will you do now?
Lk. 5:27-32; Mk. 2:15; Matt. 21:32
Why was Jesus eating and drinking with the tax-gatherers and sinners?
[“repentance” – a change of thinking. Here, to change their thinking about themselves, that they’re sinners, not righteous, and in need of a Savior, Jesus, not their religiosity.].
Is this the only legitimate reason for keeping company with ungodly people?
If not, then for what other reason(s)?
[Notice that the environment that Jesus was in was controlled by Him – the house they were using, who Jesus brought with Him, and the topic of conversation.].
Rom. 16:17-18 From whom are we to turn away, and why?
Is it hard for you to not fellowship with false teachers (those who promote wrong doctrine) and to turn away from them because you don’t like to be unpopular or receive criticism for your hard stand?
Does this passage contradict Eph. 4:2-3 or Luke 17:3-4?
1 Cor. 5:9-13 With whom should we not associate or even eat?
[“idolatrous” – one who worships (is devoted to and honors) anything above the Lord – Eph. 5:5; Col. 3:5].
[“covetous” – desire to have what belongs to another; desire for what one doesn’t have because of discontentment with what one does have].
[“greed” – wanting something that you don’t really need for purely selfish reasons].
[“reviler” – one who uses abusive language].
How was this church group to deal with this unrepentant immoral person (1 Cor. 5:1, 13), and why (1 Cor. 5:6)?
Are you disassociating from, even to the extent of not eating with, any Christian(s) who is (are) living in unrepentant (unwilling to change) sin, and why?
Does this passage contradict Luke 7:37-39, 44-48, 50?
2 Cor. 6:14-17
With whom shouldn’t believers be bound together (unequally yoked; united by legal or oath agreement), and why?
What are some examples of different binding relationships?
Would you ever marry an unbeliever or a carnal/worldly/backslidden Christian; go into a business partnership with an unbeliever; or join a fraternity, sorority, or lodge, and why?
1 Cor. 15:33 About what shouldn’t we be deceived?
Why do you think that this is so?
Does this mean that we can’t be employed by unbelievers or attend a non-Christian school?
How does this passage relate to 1 Corinthians 5:9-10?
2 Thes. 3:6 From whom should we keep aloof (personally separate or withdraw)?
[“unruly” – undisciplined, uncontrolled]
[“tradition” – the inspired teachings of the apostle Paul].
Have you ever done this?
If so, what was the Christian community’s attitude toward you for doing this?
Why do they have the attitude that they do?
2 Thes. 3:14-15
If anyone didn’t obey Paul’s instruction in this letter (this book of the Bible), what were these Christians to do, and why?
Yet how is he to be regarded?
Are these the attitudes and actions that you apply toward the Christians with whom you work, minister, and worship, and why?
2 Tim. 2:22 What should we pursue, and with whom?
[“call on the Lord” – acknowledge God /Jesus Christ for who He is].
Are you pursuing these things and with these kind of people?
If so, why, and how?
2 Tim. 3:1-5 Who (or what kind of people) should we avoid?
[This section isn’t talking about occasional offenses in these areas, for none of us are perfect, but of lifestyles, persistent attitudes and actions of this kind.].
What do you now plan to do about your relationships (your spending time) with these people, and why?
2 Jn. 1:9-11
What shouldn’t we do with anyone (a false teacher) who doesn’t abide/remain/believe in the teaching of Christ [i.e., denies Jesus Christ as the only Savior, and that He’s God in the flesh (i.e., in a human body)], and why?
Have you ever supported or encouraged a false teacher or cultist by your hospitality (i.e., by inviting him to spend the night in your home or feed him) or wishing him well as he leaves, and why?
What are we to do with a factious (self-seeking in seeking to win followers out of pride and/or jealousy) person, and why?
Have you ever had to do this?
If so, how did you feel about doing it?
If not, and you should have, why didn’t you?
2 Tim. 3:10 Because Timothy hung around Paul, what happened to Timothy?
Are you making Christ-like Christians your closest friends, and why?
If not, what do plan to do about it, and how soon?