What is your idea of a man? Is it a male with bulging muscles, tattoos, beard, hairy chest, wearing a cap/hat, chewing tobacco, drinking liquor, driving a truck or hot rod, lusting after and probably having illicit sex with good-looking women, or what?
And what is God’s idea of a man? Let’s see:
Gen. 2:15 For what purpose did God put man (Adam) in the garden of Eden?
What two qualities/characteristics is God seeming to stress as being part of man’s role?
Is work/service rather than laziness and self-centeredness characteristic of your life?
How did you come to your conclusion?
And is responsibleness/leadership/taking charge rather than irresponsibility and passivity characteristic of your life?
How did you arrive at your conclusion?
Gen. 2:19-20 For what reason did God bring the animals and birds before Adam?
What quality or role do you think God was trying to draw out of man (Adam)?
How does giving animal’s names and having those names remain draw out and establish his leadership?
Are initiative, creativity, being imaginative, thinking logically, and having authority all part of being a leader?
Does the fact that Satan tempted the woman (Eve), not the man (Adam), and that the woman was deceived, not the man (Gen. 3:1-6; 1 Tim. 2:14), also imply/show that men tend to be more objective and logical than women?
Gen. 2:18 Why did God create/make woman?
Are the women/wives of today (including most Christian wives), in your observation, helpers to their husbands (assisting and encouraging their husbands in their God-given purpose and calling – Matt. 28:19-20 – in life)?
Why do you think this is?
1 Cor. 11:8-9 Why were women created?
How does the feminist movement (i.e., Women’s Liberation) feel about this, and why?
How has the liberal media (TV, radio, newspaper, etc.) used this feminist philosophy to brainwash our society, including most Christians?
How do you feel about what God says in 1 Cor. 11:9?
1 Tim. 2:11-14
Why are women not to (spiritually) teach or exercise authority over men, but instead are to quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness?
Is God fair to women (see Rom. 9:20-21 for a similar situation)?
[In the Old Testament priesthood, only males from the family of Aaron were to officiate at public worship (Ex. 28:1-3; Num. 3:12-15). This pattern was specifically established by God, even though the whole people of God were holy (Num. 16:3).]
[This doesn’t mean that women are inferior, but simply that women have a different role designed by God. Spiritual leadership and authority over God’s people (whether in Old Testament times, New Testament times – 1 Tim. 2:1-10, 12; Titus 1:5-6 – or now) is reserved for men, unless women are teaching other women or children (Titus 2:3-5; Prov. 1:8; 6:20).].
Does 1 Cor. 14:33-35 also support this view?
Gen. 3:16 What does God tell Eve that Adam’s position/relationship to her is to be?
[Just because man (husband) is to rule over woman (wife) does not mean that men are superior to/better than women. It simply means that God’s purpose/role for man/husband is different than for the woman/wife. Man/husband is to rule over/be the head of the woman/wife.].
In your observation of most marriages, including Christian ones, are the husbands ruling over their wives, or are the wives wearing the pants in the family (i.e., ruling)?
Why do you think this is?
Could it be because a lot of men today are insecure, have bad or no role models for fathers, and/or are brainwashed by Satanically-influenced media (TV, movies, videos, books, newspapers, magazines) and educational institutions?
Gen. 3:17 What was the result of man (Adam) listening to/following/obeying the woman (Eve) instead of him leading/ruling her?
Can you see how role reversal leads to problems/sin?
[When women/wives take the leadership and initiative to head the relationship and management of the family rather than the man/husband, sin sets in and serious problems too.].
Do you know of passive men/husbands where the women/wives run/lead the marriage and the man takes orders from the woman, or abdicates his leadership responsibility because of passivity?
Why do you think this happens?
[If the man is not the leader during the dating and courtship period, he is going to have serious problems in marriage. God’s design is for the man to be the leader.].
Eph. 5:22-24; Col. 3:18-19 What does God through Paul say is the husband’s position to his wife?
What comparison does Paul use to show that the husband is to be the head/leader of the wife?
And to what extent/degree is the husband to be the head of/leader/ruler of his wife (Eph. 5:24)?
Does this mean that the wife can pick-and-choose what she wants to obey her husband in?
What is the only exception for a wife not obeying her husband (see Acts 5:29 for a similar situation)?
[If a husband asks or demands his wife to commit a sin, she should not obey him but rather God, as the man/husband overstepped his boundary of authority.].
What attitude is the husband to have toward his wife (Eph. 5:25, 28)?
And to what extent/degree?
In your observation of most marriages, Christians included, are husbands loving (seeking the best for) their wives as Christ loves the church or as they love their own bodies?
1 Pet. 3:1, 4-6 Since wives are to be submissive to their husbands, even non-Christian ones, what role/position does that make/put the husband in?
How did the holy women of the Old Testament adorn themselves/make themselves beautiful, and recognize their husband’s leadership position?
[“gentle” is an inner attitude of acceptance of God’s dealings with us without complaint or resisting; and patient submission toward husbands rather than self-assertive. Not creating disturbances; calm; co-operative; not proud.].
[“quiet” in word and action. Peaceable; not rebellious, nagging, fussing, or resentful.].
How did Sarah, a godly woman, respond to her husband Abraham?
Are today’s wives to respond in a similar way as Sarah did (1 Pet. 3:6)?
1 Cor. 11:3 What is man’s role or position to woman?
Men, are you exercising your headship (superior position) in either a family situation and/or spiritual setting, and why?
Remember that one’s positional superiority does not mean that one is personally superior or worth more to God.