“Naaph” and “esheth ish”are the Hebrew words for adultery or adulteress.

 

Prov. 2:11, 16-19      What does the adulteress do (Prov. 2:16)?

 

What does involvement with her lead to (Prov. 2:18-19)?

 

Will knowing this motivate you from having premarital sex, and why?

 

Prov. 5:3-11, 20-21      How is the adulteress described in Prov. 5:3-5?

 

What is Solomon’s advice to his son in Prov. 5:8?

 

Why (Prov. 5:9-11)?

 

Who is watching our every move (Prov. 5:21)?

 

How does this entire passage affect you, and why?

 

Prov. 6:23-29, 32-35    What are commands, teaching, and reproofs for (Prov. 6:23-24)?

 

What shouldn’t men desire (Prov. 6:25)?

 

What is the result of involvement with an adulteress (Prov. 6:26-29)?

 

Will knowing these things help to keep you from desiring or being around adulteresses or loose women, and why?

 

What is the man who commits adultery like (Prov. 6:32)?

 

Prov. 7:1-27

Why does Solomon want his son to obey his commands and make wisdom and understanding an integral/essential part of his life (Prov. 7:5)?

 

How is the young man described in Prov. 7:7-8, 22-23?

 

How is the adulteress described (Prov. 7:10-21)?

 

What advice does Solomon give his son in Prov. 7:25?

 

What advice do the Psalmist and Paul give in Psalm 119:9, 11; 2 Tim. 2:22; and 1 Cor. 15:33?

 

Will you men heed this advice?             Why, and how?

 

“Porneia” – is the Greek word for fornication or illicit sexual intercourse in general, including both pre-marital and extra-marital sex. When fornication (“porneia”) and adultery (“moichos”) are used together in the same verse, fornication means the illicit sexual relations by an unmarried person while adultery means the illicit sexual intercourse by a married person – Unger’s Bible Dictionary, p. 374.

 

Mk. 7:20-23; Matt. 15:18-20

From where do the following sins come or have their source: evil thoughts, fornications/sexual immorality (illicit sexual activities of various kinds by unmarried people), thefts, murder, adultery (sexual intercourse by a married person with a third person), etc.?

 

If you have ever been guilty of any of these sexual sins either mentally or physically, did you realize that you (your heart/sin nature) were to blame rather than your environment or the other person?

 

Gal. 5:19

What are the following sins called: sexual immorality (“porneia” – any and all forms of illicit sexual relations), impurity (“akatharsia” – moral uncleanness in thought, word, or deed; all types of sexual perversions of the mind), and sensuality (“aselgeia” – open, shameless, brazen display of lustful desires)?

 

Do you also regard these sins as the deeds/acts of the flesh/sinful nature, and why?

 

Acts 15:19-20, 29; 21:25

Besides abstaining from: eating foods that had been sacrificed to pagan idols (which was offensive to some Christians because it appeared to be supporting idolatry); things strangled (meats from which the blood had not been properly removed and so offended Hebrew believers); and blood (the pagan custom of using blood as food, which was offensive to Hebrew Christians, who considered the life in the blood and was thereby prohibited by God in Lev. 17:10-14), what else were these Gentile Christians to abstain from?

 

Are you abstaining from fornication (sexual immorality in general), and why?

 

1 Cor. 6:9-11

What won’t fornicators (all forms of sexual sin by unmarried people), idolaters, adulterers, effeminate (a man acting like or trying to be a woman), homosexuals, etc. inherit?

 

How did/could people who were/are into any of the above sins inherit the kingdom of God (1 Cor. 6:11; Acts 13:23, 38-39; 26:15, 18; Heb. 10:10-14; Eph. 2:8-9)?

 

Will you inherit the kingdom of God?                 How do you know?

 

1 Cor. 6:13-20     What isn’t and what is the body for – 1 Cor. 6:13?

 

[One reason why immorality is wrong for the Christian is because it robs the Lord of that which is His, your body – 1 Cor. 6:15, 19.].

What should we do, and why – 1 Cor. 6:18-20?

 

[“outside the body” – hyperbole, for nearly every other sin, like: stealing, murder, idolatry, cheating, and lying].

[“sins against” – ellipsis, the God-ordained purpose and use of the Christian’s body].

 

Are you fleeing immorality (all forms/types of illicit sexual relations), or are you toying/playing around with immorality by being in environments/places/situations where you cave in to sexual sin or by being with certain people you give in to?

Why, and how?

 

1 Cor. 7:2

Because Corinth was a society saturated with illicit sex of every kind that would make it hard for a single person to stay pure, what did Paul state?

 

Should a Christian get married, based on 1 Cor. 7:9, because he has a problem with sexual lust?

Let’s see.

First of all, most guys have a problem with sexual lust from their teens on. However, if it’s totally out of control (an obsession, probably due to prior involvement with pornography or with having sexual experiences), then it would be better to get married (so as to have a legitimate means of fulfilling those sexual desires) than to be in the continuous sin of burning lust.

The word “burn” in 1 Cor. 7:9 is the Greek word “purousthai” (which is in the present, middle, infinitive form) meaning: “sexual passion” since it’s used as a metaphor (Dr. A.T. Robertson, Word Pictures in the New Testament, vol. 4, p. 126); “continuance in unsatisfied desire” (Dr. M. Vincent, Word Studies in the New Testament, vol. 2, p. 772); “glowing with heat emotionally” since it’s used as a metaphor (Drs. Vine, Unger and White, An Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words, New Testament, p. 151); “inflamed with lust” (Dr. W. Perschbacher, The New Analytical Greek Lexicon, p. 360, #4448). Being in the continuous present tense, it means “continuous, unsatisfied sexual desire” rather than merely an occasional problem of impure thinking. So, if you merely have a problem with occasional lustful thoughts, don’t feel like this verse is telling you that you have to get married. Why? Because occasional lustful thoughts are far different than what this passage is dealing with (which is a continuous burning with lust all the time, 24-7).

Second, Christians should be able to control their passions since God gave us that ability through the Holy Spirit’s fruit of self-control or discipline (Gal. 5:22-23; 2 Tim. 1:7) and because God told us to (1 Thes. 4:4).

Third, since God has told us to be holy (1 Pet. 1:14-15), to set our minds on things above (Col. 3:2), to dwell on pure things (Phil. 4:8), and to renew our minds (Rom. 12:2), then we should be capable of doing this because God is at work in us both to will and to do of His good pleasure (Phil. 2:13; 4:13).

Fourth, even if a Christian doesn’t have the gift of singleness (that is, not having the desire to get married), he can still choose to remain single for the sake of the kingdom of God, as it states in Matt. 19:12 (in order to more devotedly serve God with less distractions, as marital responsibilities are many and distracting, 1 Cor. 7:32-35).

Fifth, it would be selfish (which is not loving, 1 Cor. 13:5) to get married for the primary reason of simply fulfilling your sexual desires. The woman/wife would merely be being used as a sex object rather than for the biblical reason of being a helper to her husband (Gen. 2:18, 20) in his God-given responsibilities (which is where God intended her to find her fulfillment, if married).

Sixth, nearly all men who are married find that being married has not helped them to refrain from lusting, and for some men, being married has even increased their lusting. So, getting married is not the solution for dealing with lustful thoughts. Instead, being filled with (controlled by) the Holy Spirit (Eph. 5:18), changing your thought-patterns (Rom. 12:2) by dwelling on things that are good, lovely, and pure (Phil. 4:8), and as an act of your will (Phil. 2:12; Col. 3:2) exercising the self-control that the Holy Spirit makes available (Gal. 5:23) are the best ingredients for dealing with lust.

 

1 Cor. 10:8           Why had the Lord killed 23,000 Jews in one day (Num. 25:1)?

 

Does this passage convey to you how serious a sin immorality is?

How seriously do you take it, and why?

 

1 Cor. 5:9-11

How were these Christians to relate to anyone who claimed to be a Christian (brother), yet was unrepentantly (choosing to not change their minds about being) immoral?

 

Do you associate with immoral/sexually-illicit people who claim to be Christians and who don’t plan to change, and why?

 

What should you do before disassociating from an immoral Christian who doesn’t plan to change – Gal. 6:1; Matt. 18:15-17, and why?

 

2 Cor. 12:21      What did Paul say that he may/will mourn/be grieved over?

 

Have you ever been humiliated and grieved over the continued (unrepentant, not changing their mind about) immoral conduct of church friends/acquaintances of yours?

 

Or, have Christian friends ever grieved because of your continued/unrepentant immorality?

What four things should Christians who commit sexual immorality do – 1 Jn. 1:9; 2 Tim. 2:22?

 

Eph. 5:3

What sins should not only not be committed but shouldn’t even be hinted of in the life of a Christian (saint/believer)?

 

Are you so far removed from the sins of sexual immorality (illicit sexual intercourse in general), any impurity (moral uncleanness in thought, word, or deed), and greed, that the very suspicion of its existence in your life would be banished?

What do you do to make sure that no one would even think that you might be involved in pre-marital or extra-marital sex or any sexual perversion, and why?

 

According to 2 Cor. 6:3, what is another good reason not to even have a hint of im­morality be true of you?

 

Rom. 13:14

Are you making provision for (i.e., feeding) your flesh/sin nature in regard to its lusts by looking at pornographic magazines, movies, or websites, reading sexually-explicit material, or getting physically involved (e.g., romantic kissing, sexual petting, etc.) with someone you’re not married to?

 

What should you do instead, and will you?

 

Col. 3:5     What things/sins that belong to our earthly nature/body are we Christians to put to death?

 

Are you putting to death (i.e., considering dead, and, therefore, not living from) your sin/earthly nature, so that you are no longer committing sexual immorality (“porneia” – premarital or extramarital sex), impurity (“akatharsia” – moral uncleanness in thought, word, or deed), passion/lust (“pathos” – uncontrolled, depraved lust), evil desire (illicit craving), and greed?

Why should and can we do this – Col. 3:3?

 

Are you living in the reality that the power/control of your sin nature over you has been broken (because the old, non-Christian you used to be died and you’ve become a new creation, a child of God, a Christian, 2 Cor. 5:17)?

Why would avoiding all forms/types of pornography help you to not think impurely or lustfully?

 

What else could a Christian do to clean up his/her thought-life?

 

And why those things?

 

Would memorizing scripture (related to loving people, hating immoral thinking and actions, having a pure mind and life, and then meditating often on these; watching and listening to clean pictures and words; and being around people and places that don’t encourage impurity, but purity) help?

If so, how?

 

Do you do things just because everybody else or a lot of people are doing them?

How does the fact that a lot of people are involved in premarital or extramarital sex affect your view and activities in this area, and why?

 

What things or activities usually lead up to a Christian’s committing sexual immorality, and why those?

 

Could the following things contribute to a Christian’s committing sexual sins:

  • constantly being alone with your date rather than being in a group setting?
  • not having wholesome, planned activities for your date and so out of boredom resort to physical touch?
  • not having and/or discussing with your date Christian views and limits on physical touch?
  • making sexual petting/touching a part of your dating activities?
  • staying out late at night when you’re tired and your defenses are down?
  • not making Christ, prayer, and the Bible an integral part of your date together?
  • not having biblical standards/convictions about your physical involvement before marriage?
  • feeding your mind with soap-operas, films, movies, websites, etc. that show sexual involvements?
  • feeding your mind with romance novels that wrongly program your mind/expectations about dating?
  • not making spiritual conversation, communication, and spiritual activities the main part of your time together?

 

1 Thes. 4:3-6        What three things are God’s will for us here?

 

Are you doing God’s will in being holy/pure: by abstaining from sexual immorality (“porneia” – premarital and extramarital intercourse, homosexuality, and all other sexual perversions); by learning how to control your own body or sexual desires in a way that is holy and honorable rather than in lustful passion; and by not sexually doing wrong to or taking advantage of another person?

 

What can a Christian do to control his sexual desires/drives (Rom. 12:2; Phil. 4:8; Col. 3:2; Psa. 119:9, 11; Rom. 13:14; Eph. 5:18)?

 

What is one reason why a Christian shouldn’t take sexual advantage of another Christian (1 Thes. 4:6; Heb. 13:4)?

 

Matt. 19:9; 5:32; Mk. 10:11-12; Lk. 16:18

Who commits adultery, according to these passages?

 

 

How does God’s view differ from our society’s or from yours, and why?

 

“Moichos” – is the Greek word for adultery. It is the willful violation of the marriage contract by either of the parties through sexual intercourse with a third party – Unger’s Bible Dictionary, p. 24.

 

Rom. 13:8-10       When won’t a person commit adultery?

 

Why will loving your spouse keep you from adultery – Rom. 13:10?

 

Do or will you love (seek the best interest of) your wife/husband, so that you won’t commit adultery?

 

“Epithumeo” – is the Greek word meaning “to lust” or desire greatly.

 

Matt. 5:27-28      What has the person who looks lustfully at a woman already committed?

 

What can you do to avoid committing adultery in your mind/thoughts?

 

Would doing what Rom. 12:2; Phil. 4:8; Col. 3:2 say help?

How?

 

“Arsenokoites” – is the Greek word for homosexual; an abuser of one’s self with mankind.

 

1 Tim. 1:8-11       What was made for or because of homosexuals/perverts (Lev. 18:22; 20:13)?

 

What is homosexuality contrary to?

 

1 Cor. 6:9-10       What won’t homosexuals inherit?

 

How did/could people who were/are homosexuals inherit the kingdom of God(1 Cor. 6:11; Eph. 2:8-9; Col. 2:13-14; Titus 3:5; Jn. 3:16)?

 

Rom. 1:26-27

What will the homosexual and lesbian receive in themselves (their own persons) for their indecent acts?

 

Do you view homosexuality as an all-right, alternative lifestyle or as a sin, and why?

 

“Incest” is sexual intercourse between people so closely related that they are forbidden by law to marry.

 

Lev. 18:6-18; 20:11-12; 1 Cor. 5:1      With whom were people not to have sex?

 

What was the penalty for incest?

 

Do you view incest as a sin, and why?

 

“Bestiality” is sexual intercourse between a person and an animal.

 

Lev. 18:23; 20:15-16; Ex. 22:19    What was the penalty for having sex with an animal?

 

Could you forgive and accept a person converted from such a background?

Why (see 1 Cor. 6:9, 11; Eph. 4:31-32; Col. 3:13)?

 

In conclusion, the best ways to keep from committing immorality as a Christian are: to be Spirit-filled/controlled (Eph. 5:18), think on wholesome things (Rom. 12:2; Phil. 4:8), have/be around close, godly friends, and stay away from tempting people and places (2 Tim. 2:22; 1 Cor. 15:33; Prov. 5:8).

 

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