1. focus on the failure of others

2. are self-righteous; have a critical, fault-finding spirit; look at own life/faults with a telescope but others with a microscope

3. look down on others

4. are independent; have a self-sufficient spirit

5. maintain control; must have their own way

6. have to prove that they are right

7. claim rights

8. have a demanding spirit

9. are self-protective of time, rights, reputation

10. desire to be served

11. desire to be a success

12. desire for self-advancement

13. are driven to be recognized and appreciated

14. are wounded when others are promoted and they’re overlooked

15. think “the ministry is privileged to have me!”

16. think of what they can do for God

17. feel confident in how much they know

18. are self-conscious

19. keep people at arm’s length

20. are quick to blame others

21. are unapproachable

22. are defensive when criticized

23. are concerned with being respectable

24. are concerned about what others think

25. work to maintain image and protect reputation

26. find it difficult to share their spiritual needs with others

27. want to be sure no one finds out about their sin

28. have a hard time saying, “I was wrong. Would you forgive me?”

29. deal in generalities when confessing sin

30. are concerned about the consequences of their sin

31. are remorseful for being caught

32. wait for the other party to come and ask for forgiveness in a conflict

33. compare themselves with others and feel deserving of honor

34. are blind to their true heart condition

35. don’t think they have anything of which to repent

36. don’t think they need revival (think everybody else does)

1. are overwhelmed with their own spiritual need

2. are compassionate; have a forgiving spirit; look for the best in others

3. esteem all others better than self

4. have dependent spirit; recognize others’ needs

5. surrender control

6. are willing to yield the right to be right

7. yield rights

8. have a giving spirit

9. are self-denying

10. are motivated to serve others

11. desire to be faithful to make others a success

12. desire to promote others

13. have a sense of unworthiness; are thrilled to be used at all; are eager for others to get the credit

14. rejoice when others are lifted up

15. think “I don’t deserve to serve in this ministry!”

16. know that they have nothing to offer God

17. are humbled by how much they have to learn

18. have no concern with self at all

19. risk getting close to others; are willing to take the risks of loving intimately

20. accept personal responsibility; can see where they were wrong

21. are easy to be entreated

22. receive criticism with a humble, open heart

23. are concerned with being real

24. know all that matters is what God knows

25. die to own reputation

26. are willing to be transparent with others

27. are willing to be exposed; know once broken, there’s nothing to lose

28. are quick to admit fault and seek forgiveness

29. deal in specifics

30. are grieved over the root of their sin

31. are repentant over sin and forsake it

32. take the initiative to be reconciled; gets there first

33. compare themselves with the holiness of God and feel desperate for mercy

34. walk in the light

35. have a continual heart attitude toward repentance

36. continually sense their need to be controlled by the Holy Spirit

By Nancy Leigh DeMoss


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