WHAT TRULY SATISFIES
Spiritually and deeply knowing and personally experiencing God is what truly satisfies, as King David testifies (Psa. 63:1-8).
Happy/Blessed and satisfied is the person whom God chooses and brings near to Himself to experience His presence, His goodness, and a right relationship to Him (Psa. 65:1-4).
God satisfies the thirsty and hungry person (who cries out/pleads for the Lord’s help) with what is good (Psa. 107:8-9). The fear/reverence of the Lord leads to life (real living), so that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil (Prov. 19:23).
The Lord is the One who satisfies a person’s years with good things (Psa. 103:5).
The Lord is also the One who satisfies us with His lovingkindness (Psa. 90:14).
WHAT DOES NOT TRULY SATISFY
You won’t truly be satisfied with riches (Eccles. 5:10-12; 4:8; 2:8, 10-11).
And you won’t truly be satisfied with other gods, such as: sports, career, computers, music, material possessions, homes, vehicles, etc. (Ezek. 16:28-29).
The proud person will never be satisfied (Hab. 2:5).
The eye is not satisfied with seeing (but wants to have what it sees), Eccles. 1:8.
The eyes of man are never satisfied (Prov. 27:20). Solomon, who wrote this (Prov. 1:1), knows this from experience. Though Solomon had hundreds of wives and hundreds of concubines (female sex partners who lived with him but were not married to him) whom he loved and held fast to in love, Solomon was never truly satisfied deeply nor for more than a moment (Eccles. 2:8, 10-11) because he both said so in Eccles. 2:8, 10-11 and because he kept getting more and more wives and concubines (1 Kings 11:1-3) since the first few hundred didn’t deeply or permanently satisfy/fulfill him, nor did all the sex that went with it (e.g., 1 Kings 11:43; Prov. 5:7; 7:24, as evidenced by the many children he had). In fact, in Eccles. 2:8, 11, Solomon says, “I provided for myself… the pleasures of men – many concubines.” “Thus I considered all my activities…, and behold all was vanity (meaninglessness) and striving after wind (not fulfilling) and there was no profit under the sun.” Solomon concludes his advice by stating in Eccles. 12:13, “The conclusion, when all has been heard, is: fear (reverence) God and keep His commandments…” And having all these wives was against God’s commandment anyway (1 Kings 17:17).
Samson also shows us that “man’s eyes (and life) are never satisfied” by sex and/or marriage because Samson lusted, got married, then committed adultery with a harlot, and then pursued a relationship with still another woman (Judg. 14:1-3, 7, 15; 16:1, 4-5, 19). So, Samson was not truly satisfied with marriage or sex in a deep or permanent way.
Then, there is King David. He had at least eight wives, seven of which were at the same time, and he had sex and children with all seven of them (1 Sam. 17:20, 26-27; 25:39-43; 2 Sam. 3:2-5; 11:27). And it’s obvious that being married and having sex did not truly or deeply satisfy him because he had to keep getting more and more wives and the sex that went with it, yet he still lusted after a married woman and committed adultery with her ( 2 Sam. 11:1-5), even though he had 6 wives at that moment. Even though David had many wives, both beautiful and of good character (1 Sam. 25:22-33, 40-42; 2 Sam. 11:2, 27) and Jonathan was married and had a son (2 Sam. 9:6-7), David says that Jonathan’s (godly, self-sacrificial) love was more wonderful to him than the (romantic, sensual) love of women, that his friendship with Jonathan was more pleasant/pleasing/ satisfying than that of the love women ( 2 Sam. 1:26). Jonathan and David were soul-friends, knit closely together in a committed friendship (1 Sam 18:1). This was not a homosexual relationship, as nothing in the Bible states or even implies that, plus God calls David “a man after My own heart” (Acts 13:22), and God is opposed to homosexuality (1 Tim. 1:9-10; Lev. 20:13). So, David and Jonathan’s friendship was deeply satisfying, even more so than all the women’s/wives romantic love. That’s quite a statement!
While knowing and personally experiencing God through faith and obedience satisfies/fulfills a person deeply and spiritually, having a true, close, human friend can satisfy your emotional, social, and physical longings and needs.
WHAT HELPS TO TRULY SATISFY
If you are looking for closeness and emotional support to prevent loneliness and instead provide a certain degree of social intimacy, then a true friend can provide with his physical presence and loyalty the human companionship you need for satisfaction and contentment in life (Prov. 18:24; Jn. 13:23).
If you’re looking for godly love, then a true friend can provide the genuine interest, concern, and seeking of your best welfare that can provide contentment and satisfaction in life (Prov. 17:17; Acts 27:3; Jn. 11:5, 35-36, 43-44).
If you’re looking for someone to help better your life to be more mature, well-rounded, and Christ-like, then a godly friend can provide that in order to help make your life more satisfying and contented (Prov. 27:6).
If you’re looking for good communication and the sharing of your personal thoughts and life with someone, then a true friend can provide that, which, in turn, will help provide satisfaction and contentment in life (Prov. 27:9; Jn. 15:15).
If you’re looking for someone who is willing to sacrifice for you, if need be, then a true friend can help provide that assurance to make your life more contented and satisfying (Jn. 15:12-13).
If you’re looking for encouragement in life, then a true friend will provide that in order to help make your life more satisfying (1 Sam. 23:15-16).
If you’re looking for someone to be committed to you for life, then a true friend can provide this to help make your life more contented and satisfying (1 Sam. 14:6-7; Ruth 1:16).
If you’re looking to serve/labor for the Lord more effectively with a partner, then a true friend can provide that team spirit and assistance to make your life and ministry more fulfilling, even as Timothy did with Paul (Eccles. 4:9-10; Phil. 2:19-22; 2 Tim. 1:1-4).
If you’re looking for comfort in time of need, then a true friend can provide the warmth, affection, and comfort needed to make life more satisfying (Eccles. 4:11; 1 Thes. 2:8).
If you’re looking for security and protection in time of need, then a true friend can assist to make your life more satisfying and contented (Eccles. 4:12).
Jesus’ disciples told Jesus that if there were no grounds for being able to get a divorce (without it being a sin to do) and that getting remarried as a divorced person would also be a sin, then it would be better to not get married in the first place. Jesus agrees (Matt. 19:10-11). Then Jesus goes on to say that some men choose to stay single in order to (better) further the kingdom of heaven (God’s program of evangelism and building up believers) and that if you can handle being single for this reason, then stay single (Matt. 19:12).
The Apostle Paul agrees and adds two other benefits to being single. The first is being able to give undistracted devotion to the Lord, and the second is being free from concern regarding the heavy responsibilities of married life (1 Cor. 7:7-8, 32-35).
Sometimes it’s God’s will to be single rather than being married and having a family and it’s often also what’s best when you are serving God, as it was in the case of Jeremiah the prophet of God (see Jer. 16:1-2), yet he found his strength and fulfillment in his obedience to God (Jer. 16:19).
So, you don’t have to be married and have marital intercourse in order to be truly satisfied spiritually, emotionally, socially, or physically if you have a good friendship with both God and another human being (a godly, Christian friend).